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oh, i have no idea about anything about this situation, but i’m just going to sit here and defend this guy anyway, because liberal men. oh but he harassed an underage girl? well he totally didn’t know she was underage, so that’s cool. oh but the adult women didn’t actually consent? let me talk to you some more about how much i’m not paying attention to facts, even though i still feel qualified enough to defend him.
“The simple fact is: “Homophobia” is not an accurate term to describe people who are prejudiced against queer people. It is appropriative (taking something from an oppressed group and erasing the meaning) of people with actual phobias. The term ”heterosexist” is more accurate because while homophobia is supposedly the fear of gay people, heterosexist is more inclusive of the different types of queer (homo=gay, so homophobia=fear of homosexuals) and is more accurate at what the word is trying to convey: the prejudice that hetero people are better than people who aren’t hetero.”
That’s real cute. Now stop it.
Listen up, tumblr SJWs. Nobody is appropriating shit from people with phobias, and the large number of LGBT people with phobias who’ve spoken up to tell you you’re wrong should maybe have been a hint.
The word ‘phobia’ is not the same thing as the suffix phobia.
When someone has a migraine, and they experience photophobia, that is not ableism. They are not appropriating anything from people with phobias, because a phobia and -phobia are not the same thing.
When a chemist talks about something having hydrophobic properties, that is not ableism. They are not appropriating anything from people with phobias when they describe a substance that is repelled by water.
Biologists, gardeners, doctors, politicians - all of these people have terms in their professional spheres that make use of the suffix -phobia.
Just because two words share a root they are not automatically the same word.
Likewise, homophobia is not appropriating anything from people with phobias. Other than tumblr SJWs, literally the only other people who pretend homophobia has anything to do with mental illness are homophobes themselves. It’s one of the first derailing tactics: “But phobia means fear and I’m not ~scared~ of the gays so I can’t be homophobic!”
I think it’s pretty telling that a lot of the people calling it ableist are doing so in response to being called out for saying something homophobic.
It’s a shitty, emotionally manipulative way to attempt to silence LGB+ people. It’s repackaged homophobia - reinforcing the same old cultural prejudices but wrapped up in shiny social justice language.
“Using “-phobia” to discuss bigotry shames phobias as well. Telling people that their emotional reactions are as bad as forces that systematically dehumanize and kill people on a regular basis prevents people from being able to discuss their reactions without being read as terrible people.”
Find me one person on earth who thinks “Arachnophobia? that sounds like homophobia! Goodness gracious me, now everyone must hate me for being bigoted against spiders!”
That’s ridiculous. Partly because spiders are fuzzy-legged beady-eyed venomous killing machines of terror. Also, because sensible people understand not only that words mean things, but that different words mean different things.
Again, this is a shitty, emotionally manipulative way to attempt to silence us.
Back to that feministilicious quote:
“The term ”heterosexist” is more accurate because while homophobia is supposedly the fear of gay people, ;heterosexist is more inclusive of the different types of queer (homo=gay, so homophobia=fear of homosexuals).”
Again, confusing suffixes and prefixes with words. Using “homophobia” isn’t excluding bi- or pansexuals. Because, you incompetent baboon, “homo” doesn’t actually mean “gay”. Homophobia is directed at anyone with a same-sex attraction. If “homo-” meant gay then round up all the homozygotes, we’ve found the gay gene!
If you’re going to criticize someone’s language use, you should probably make sure first that you yourself understand the words you’re using. Prefix. Suffix. Silencing. Concern trolling. That kind of thing.
Now, all of you, stop flaunting your own ignorance and let us uppity LGB+ folks call out our oppressors in peace.
when those energized people are trying to make a difference at the expense of oppressed groups, we are more than delighted to shit all over them C:
An everyday question - it’s rare to hear someone asked “Why are you Christian?” or “Why are you Jewish?” but it’s common for atheists to be asked to explain or justify their beliefs. (via microaggressions)
why is this a microaggression, and why are you comparing the treatment atheists get to anti-semitism?
I have decided to change my approach to interacting with asexuals who are struggling with articulating their oppression. I hope this can be a valuable resource for the asexual community in making a credible case for their oppression, particularly to queer people who are unimpressed so far.
-Construct a coherent and consistent definition of “asexual” that does not exclude grey-A and demisexual people.
-Construct a coherent and consistent definition of “sexual” that does not include grey-A and demisexual people and does not imply that non-demisexual and non-grey-A people are oversexed, promiscuous, or even necessarily interested in casual sex or any sex at all.
-Construct a coherent and consistent definition of demisexual that does not imply that a huge part of the heterosexual human population, complying with the dominant societal prescription for female sexual behavior, belongs to a sexual minority.
-Decide whether people who fall into these definitions but don’t know about or don’t care about your identity politics count in your oppression or not.
-Demonstrate any compelling pre-Internet link between hetero- and a-romantic asexual people and queer communities.
-Be able to talk about why hetero- and a-romantic asexuals belong in the queer community without implying or outright saying (as one person representing AVEN has) that queer people need you to teach them about this new thing called non-sexual intimacy.
-Be able to illustrate how each instance of asexuals being “oppressed” is specific to those who identify as asexual and does not apply to women with FSD, people low sex drive due to long-term depression or other health reasons, people who abstain from sex due to trauma, gender dysphoria, or any other deeply personal reason, sexual people who are nonetheless alienated by dominant sexual culture, etc.
-Understand the key difference between someone who identifies as asexual and someone who is diagnosed with Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder.
-Be able to recognize that some people may desire treatment options for low/null sex drive without assuming they are asexuals with a false consciousness.
-Omit any examples of “sexual privilege” that women in a misogynistic society and queer people in a heterosexist society do not actually benefit from.
-Learn the complex pre-1990 history of anti-oppression movements, specifically those whose frameworks you are appropriating.
And, most importantly for those of us with materialist leanings:
-Using reliable, concrete data, be able to illustrate how sexual persons, including LGBTQ sexual persons, have better access and opportunities than asexual persons in most if not all of the following categories: housing, education, employment, health care, income, and wealth accumulation.
-Optional: Using reliable, concrete data, be able to illustrate how asexuals are disproportionately policed and imprisoned.
I can promise you, if you can manage even 75% of this, you will be taken a lot more seriously.